Moon in the 7th House : “Give Me Your Love”

With one’s moon placed natally in the 7th house, there’s a fine line between emotional support and labor. Having the moon in an angular house equates to a strong position oriented towards “the other”. So, there’s the possibility of  a perpetually reactive stance to the feelings and emotions of other people.

How you navigate this space is key.

A developmental lesson of this placement is to understand the importance of owning your feelings and being in charge of them. Also, learning the true definition of empathy will prove to be important, as to be able to make the distinction between identification and sharing feelings with another and allowing yourself to become enmeshed and entrenched in others tumultuous dramas.

This natal position suggests that there’s the potential to form genuine connections with others and create avenues of trust and support. So, to care in a warm and nurturing manner which fosters growth is natural. However, to understand the limits of your support and knowing when to encourage another person to help themselves will prove to be key to your overall emotional health.

You’re not required to digest and carry the emotional burdens of others. Your reigning strength relies in providing and holding a safe, non-judgmental space where active listening and kindness are present, as well as healthy and clearly defined boundaries.

You may be someone who works directly with women or has an emotional investment in issues which affect them specifically.  Also, in your partnerships, the open expression of how one is feeling may be valued and prevent unhealthy projections.

If you have the Moon in the 7th House, your theme song is “Give Me Your Love” by Curtis Mayfield. You can listen here:

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Mercury-Uranus Aspects :”Brand New Flava in Ya Ear”

 

When Mercury and Uranus hook up in a natal chart,  innovative thought which seeks to release itself from the straight jacket of convention is highlighted.

I think Craig Mack said it best:

“here comes the brand new flava in ya ear….. time for new flava in ya ear…. im kickin new flava in ya ear.”

Every planetary placement or aspect in our chart can serve us as an opportunity.

With Mercury-Uranus contacts, we have the continuous chance to infuse our intellectual faculties with new and fresh ideas. To spark innovative thoughts.

Mercury represents our thought process and what we think about. Uranus symbolizes dynamic change, unconventionality and departure from the status quo.

If Mercury touches Uranus within your birth chart, the potential is there not only to shock and shake yourself out of conditioned responses, which ultimately revolutionizes your mind, you can also serve as a catalyst for others by encouraging the same type of examination and questioning concerning the usefulness of the existing thought structures.

Your perceptions have the potential to be lightning quick and accurate to boot. Trusting your intuitive faculties is an important ingredient in this cosmic recipe. We’re talking about flashes of mental insight while in the shower, on the train, driving to work- you name it.

Some astrologers say the highest manifestation of this aspect means genius. I say it can produce someone who not only colors “outside the lines” in life and stretches the boundaries of the mind, but also consistently maintains the courage to stand alone in the face of their ideas initially being branded as  “unpopular”, or highly eccentric.

An individual who knows the price of admission to non-conformity and keeps a stash of currency to cover it.

If you have this connection in your chart, it’s extremely important to develop and nurture your capacity for independent thought.

Your natural inclination is to reject the “herd” mentality. So, go ahead and keep developing your new slang and verbiage and let others take their time in catching up.

On the flip side, it’s not a good look when your authenticity is reactionary. When you attempt to be different just for the sake of it. You then become a pseudo-enigma with your “originality” predicated on looking at what everyone else is doing, and simply doing the opposite.

With a Mercury-Uranus aspect in your natal chart, your theme song is “Flava in Ya Ear” by Craig Mack. You can listen right here:

Mercury-Neptune Aspects : “Hypnotize”

 

When interpreting aspects in one’s birth chart, it’s important to keep in mind that for every constructive and helpful potential, there’s a dysfunctional and maladaptive one. The relationship between Mercury and Neptune provides an excellent example.

As we investigate the planetary archetypes, we come to realize that Mercury is the thinker and the communicator. It’s associated with our perception, information exchange, speech and our rational mind.

Neptune, on the other hand, is the archetype of all things which are nebulous and can’t be clearly defined. The planetary energy is slippery, and simultaneously enchanting and deceptive.  Ideals, escapism and lack of boundaries also fall in the Neptunian realm.

So, what type of potentials exist when these two meet up in the birth chart?  On the constructive side, there’s potential  for the flowing of the left-brain, right-brain connection. An affinity with symbols can be present and in turn, creates a strength in deciphering languages which speak to the collective in broad and universal terms like film, music, astrology, poetry, etc…

One’s speech may be refined and from the intellectual standpoint they may be able to tune into subtleties that others miss. When this aspect is working, there’s a definite power of suggestion at play. In fact, this is the same suggestion that advertisers use to “tune into” what their audience wants (or what they think they want).

There’s also a talent for understanding how ideas are interconnected which can give a person a great sense of rhythm and flow and the capacity to communicate ideas to others which reflect idealism and inspire creative activity.  A visionary with the sensitivity of mind to tap into what makes people tick and assist and heal in the subterranean realms would be a great use of this aspect.

On the other side of things, there can be a penchant for lying by omission in one’s communication, “double talk” and delusional thinking.  The maladaptive side of  this aspect can manifest as someone who is able to permeate the thought processes of others, but uses it for designs that are less than honorable, such as those that participate in the “brainwashing” process.

If you have a Mercury-Neptune aspect in your birth chart, your theme song is “Hypnotize” by Notorious B.I.G. You can listen here:

 

 

Moon-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry: “Emotional Understanding”

When it comes to intimate relationships, emotional understanding is undoubtedly one of the most vital pieces to the puzzle of success.

Between two individuals, when major contacts are present between the Moon and Ascendant, the potential for such a dynamic is just waiting to be realized. In my opinion, it matters less whose Moon or Ascendant is doing the contacting and more, that an open, heartfelt display of feelings be honored between the two parties.

The potential attraction exists because one feels secure in the presence of the other based on their overall identity projection. It’s like both people have sniffed out an invisible “shame-free” zone in which they can operate in. A haven where judgement is pushed to the side in favor of unconditional support.

Moon-Ascendant contacts suggest that the emotional states of both parties will be easily revealed to the other, so there’s really no use in trying to hide that bad day at the office because you didn’t receive the promotion. Yeah…. you’re gonna talk about it!!

This can be beautiful, or quite troubling at times because even though both partners are on the “same page”, one may be reading far ahead of the other.  Also, with so much free flowing emotion, it’s important to remember that advantages of gaining some distance so each person owns their “stuff” and resists projecting it on to the other.

Overall, the opportunities which exist within these contacts are a sense of safety; of never feeling “under siege”. This sets up the possibility of a fearless display of love. The type of relationship where anything can be shared with either party and the responsibility that comes with having the heart of the other in the palm of one’s hand is taken with the utmost seriousness and handled with absolute care.

Relationship Astrology: Neptune-Ascendant Contacts in Synastry

When we think about Neptunian energy, something that is not immediately graspable comes to mind. It’s elusive, nebulous and boundless. Equally, it’s ethereal and enchanting.

Upon meeting another individual, the Ascendant, a.k.a., the rising sign is usually what we’ll encounter as being their “representative”. While the Ascendant isn’t our inner essence, it makes a statement about our orientation to the world and symbolizes the “vehicle” most aptly equipped to help us navigate our life terrain.

What do we make of it when one person’s Neptune contacts another’s Ascendant (or vice versa) via synastry?

The answers to this question can range from awe inspiring and soul stirring to unbelievably delusional and deceptive. With Neptune in the picture, idealism is at the forefront of the entire interaction.

Automatically, there’s an inclination to view each other in a state of how we would WANT things to be.

While not inherently harmful, what’s important is to make the distinction of what realities are present in the relationship without using that idealism to obscure things that we might find unpleasant or difficult to deal with. The trouble begins when we invent an alternative universe because we find that the one staring us in the face to be less than Nina Mosley and Darius Lovehall’s chance meeting at “The Sanctuary”.

There’s a fascination contained in these contacts, which in true Neptunian fashion, goes above and beyond description and catapults us into the world of inspirational visions. Chances are, if you have this aspect with another person, there is a “pull” of allure that you feel that you must explore.

There’s no doubt that the Neptune-Ascendant link can denote a spiritual connection and unconditional acceptance of the other person.

There can be a feeling of “purified” admiration for each other’s self-presentation. If both people are mature and authentic in what they show the world, this aspect makes for an uplifting one where they can be of assistance to one another, infusing creativity into one another’s aspirations.

On the flip side, if we allow our imagination to run buck wild with no concrete grounding, we’ll be somewhere screaming that this person “wasn’t what i thought they were” or falling victim to the wiles of “Mr. Dream Merchant” who warns us:

“I sell dreams/sell schemes, sell you anything for a bite of that cream/but once you get what you get it’s not as good as it seems- so just open up your eyes……”

Neptune-Ascendant contacts teach us to remain awake to the possibilities, while not allowing ourselves to be lulled to sleep into a ultra quixotic dream.

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Virgo Sun, Gemini Moon : “Right and Exact”

 

Here, we have a combination geared toward the life of the mind and the propagation of ideas. Elementally, with earth and air, there’s a researcher present which seeks practical findings and results.  The mutability of this combination suggests a penchant for adjusting oneself to changing circumstances and possibly thriving while doing so.

The potential for strength of intellect is clear.  There’s a need to pursue certain lines of thought just for the sake of satiating curiosity, while one is ultimately illuminated through analysis and that which one can measure. This has the makings of a fruitful combination if the lines of scientific thought blend well with a youthful and experimental openness.

One’s life’s work is the pulling apart of components in order to hold them to the light. This critical scrutiny is designed to assess ways in which a person, idea or system can function in a healthier, more streamlined manner.

With this blend, one’s core needs are centered around learning that comes with variety. There’s a feeling of being “at home” with dualities and competing perspectives.  Playing the role of detached observer comes naturally, but it can also bring challenges in situations where a more personal touch is needed.

In synthesis, these solar and lunar components can produce the expert linguist, where speech is refined and exact; an uncanny ability to describe, with pure precision, what one sees and experiences. It can be said that “learning is your craft”, as categorization  and classification nourish the deepest part of yourself.

It’s important to make room for a broad, overarching framework in which to place your findings. Otherwise, you could easily suffer from having ingested too much with no way to use it. Also, a gentle reminder that there’s a difference between data and people always helps, as it’s important to curb the tendency of the “white coat, lab rat” syndrome where your prize is an illusory “objectivity” , which can cost you what would otherwise be significant relationships in your life.

Your Theme song is “Right and Exact” by Dilated Peoples

You can listen right here:

 

Sagittarius, Dating & Relationships : A Deeper Look at The Archer

If we’ve read enough sun sign columns, we’re familiar with both the constructive and the dysfunctional expressions of all 12 zodiac signs. We’re also well acquainted with each sign’s reputation when certain behavioral inclinations are concerned. The passionate intensity of Scorpio, the analytic precision of Virgo or the acute intuition of Cancer just to name a few.

So….. what about Sagittarius? You ask….

For whatever reasons, the Archer seems to have gained a reputation among the zodiac as the perpetual bachelor or bachelorette. The sign which prefers to stay free and unencumbered versus preferring a steady, long-term relationship or marriage.

I make the case, however, that there’s much more to this scenario than the ink written on the pages of these sun sign columns can tell us. We must adjust our thinking to a broader level to appreciate not a fragment of, but the entire Sagittarian archetype.

In much of the Astrological literature I come across, when Sagittarius is being analyzed, there seems to be a direct correlation made between the Centaur’s desire and need for freedom and the inability to commit to a long-term partnership.

If we examine Sagittarius on a deeper level, I think we’ll find that the lesser question is : “Why can’t Sagittarians commit?” and the greater question is: “What type of relationship encourages the Archer to explore long range possibilities?”

Most of us learned in “Research Methods 101” that the manner in which a question is asked predetermines the range of possible answers. If the question is: “Why can’t Sagittarians commit?” It automatically excludes the possibility of them being capable of committing to a partnership.

NOTE: This article is not only applicable to those with the Sun placed in Sagittarius, but also those with personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus,Mars) in the sign as well as Sagittarius rising.

Much of what’s written could also apply to those whose chart suggests a strong Jupiterian influence such as Jupiter placed in Sagittarius, in the 1st house, in major aspect to any of the personal planets and the Ascendant.

The Sagittarius Archetype

When analyzing Sagittarius, we must first consider the symbolism. Half Woman/Man and half beast. A Centaur or an Archer pointing its arrow emphatically upward into the vastness of the universe.

This entire picture broadcasts both the need for the arrow of thoughts and ideas to fly free through the open cosmos and the body to remain comfortably rooted in its animal nature. Sagittarius isn’t as much seeking to transcend his or her physicality as they are intent on successfully integrating it into the totality of their being.

The 9th sign of the zodiac seeks to find a deeper meaning in BOTH functions as a vehicle for constructing a personal philosophy. Sagittarius wants to take heed to the words of Paulo Coelho and “learn to recognize omens and follow them.” The Archer possesses an insatiable thirst for life experience and an enthusiasm for following his or her personal legend.

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Relationships

For Sagittarius, where partnerships are concerned, it’s not so much a matter of whether or not they have the ability to commit, but rather WHAT they would potentially be committing TO.

When discussing Sags, Astrologer Steven Forrest once alluded to the concept of love being hard on the freedom that the archer so desperately needs- and it CAN be. However, it doesn’t HAVE to be soul draining.

One of the keys to relationship success for the Centaur is ruthless self-honesty regarding their own relationship needs. Especially when it comes to personal space.

Now, this “space” is not a free pass to go off half cocked and undermine the fundamental trust and integrity on which a solid, healthy relationship is based, but rather the freedom to think big thoughts; to dream about large scale ventures and contemplate life’s enormous questions. After all, this is the way of the Philosophical wiring which comes with the assembly of so many Sags.

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If Sag finds the type of partner that understands this system and recognizes the importance of his/her life journey, they’re MORE than willing to commit. You may even catch one of them with bells on!! Astrologer Jeffrey Wolf Green writes the following about Venus in Sagittarius, which could be applied to any personal placement:

” The Venus in Sagittarius person is fundamentally restless, and is committed to the value of personal freedom to pursue any experience they deem necessary in order to discover and actualize themselves. The need for freedom permeates these people , and they generally will not tolerate any condition or constraint that inhibits their independence or freedom.

When such conditions or constraints exist, the Venus in Sagittarius person will progressively feel an inner alienation from those conditions or constraints, and the psychology or alienation becomes a causal factor or determinant in separating, at least inwardly from those conditions or constraints.”

Furthermore:

” In their intimate relationships, the Venus in Sagittarius person is forever needing and trying to balance their need for independence within the context of their relationship. Because these people have an almost absolute need for perpetual growth within themselves, they need and desire an intimate other who is also committed to personal growth.

This will then allow for the dynamics within the relationship to be defined by a mutual commitment to growth. in effect, these individuals need to be in a relationship where there’s an ongoing sense of adventure.

The Venus in Sagittarius person will simply experience a deep alienation from their partner when the relationship has degenerated into a stale, static routine. They need a partner who can mirror and reflect their own reality of intellectual and philosophical pondering. A partner with whom they can interact in this way at an equal level.

The Venus in Sagittarius person needs this  kind of  intellectual or philosophical stimulation and to be periodically challenged by their partner through such types of discussions. When this occurs, they will have a tremendous amount of respect for their partner, and will sustain their enthusiasm  for the relationship. When this does not occur, then they lose respect for the partner and become progressively alienated.”

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A long time ago, I remember reading an Astrology book that said something to the effect of: ” to attract Sagittarius, you’ll need to act like you overdosed on positive affirmation tapes.” I had to laugh when I read that because it gives form to the potent thrust of Sagittarius’ buoyancy.

THIS is part of the package that Sagittarius is willing to commit to: life-affirming optimism, vitality;  a sense of the next physical or intellectual adventure just around the corner:

“By nature, the Venus in Sagittarius person needs levity, humor, lightness and optimism to pervade their intimate relationship. If their with a partner who is constantly too serious or withdrawn, this will also become a causal factor in creating a state of alienation and withdrawl  from such a partner.

They will naturally encourage the independent actualization and will develop a deepening respect for their partners who independently actualize their own life purposes. They will not respect a partner who just wants to hang on to them without developing their own identity or life purpose, or a partner who attempts to restrict their need for necessary freedom and independence.”

The Other Side of The Game

Since we’ve hopefully come to the conclusion that Sagittarius, like every other sign of the zodiac, is capable of fulfilling, long-term commitment, now it’s time to discuss what can potentially hold the Centaur back, where the Archer’s arrow misfires.

Polarized and Dogmatic Thinking

One of the dysfunctional expressions of Sagittarius energy is to listen and hear only through the filter of their own beliefs. When operating unproductively, there’s a tendency to to create a black and white scenario surrounding relationships. So, Sags feel like they’re either free as a bird floating in the crisp summer air or hopelessly bound to the ole ball and chain.

What the Archer needs to realize is that relationships require mutual sacrifice.

M-U-T-U-A-L sacrifice.

The Centaur can easily sabotage the ideal partnership he/she is seeking to create through a refusal to, as Paulo Coelho says: “to accept love as a stimulus.” The immature and underdeveloped Sagittarius sees love as a THREAT to his/her freedom; as something that’s going to deduct from them rather than add breadth and richness to their spectrum of life. Whereas the more mature version of the Archer, who has learned much from experience employs his/her openness as a means to grasp the supports that are being offered:

“If he has the courage to unearth his dreams, he then faces a second obstacle: love. He now knows what he desires to do, but he thinks he will harm those around him if he gives everything up to follow his dreams.

He does not understand that love is an additional impulse, not something which hinders one from going forward. he does not understand that those who truly wish him well are longing for his happiness and are ready to accompany him on his adventure.”

The Grass is Always Greener/Overly Futuristic Reverend “Do Good” Syndrome

“But….If I decide on THIS, what if something “better” comes along?”

I wouldn’t be surprised if this question hasn’t touched the brain waves of almost every Sagittarius infused individual. However, a potentially better question which garners consideration is:

“What are YOU doing in the HERE and NOW to make your CURRENT situation better?” It’s a classic Sagittarian pitfall to be so captivated by future possibilities that they’re tripping themselves up in the moment:

“Sagittarius is the sign most likely to be oblivious to the realities right in front of them that are obvious to everyone else because they are so focused on the distant goal. Since the road to hell is paved with good intentions, Sagittarius people need to be sure that their goals and ideals are grounded in what is truly possible.

They DO need a large guiding vision to motivate them in life, but they also need times of self-examination to assess whether they are themselves living up to their ideals. They like to preach to others (usually “helpfully” in their view), but if something doesn’t work out, well… that isn’t their problem. Sagittarius people rather dislike the heaviness of daily “reality” and personal or emotional problems.”

Sagittarius: here’s the bottom line. You’re natural, healthy idealism need not take a “hit” just because you’ve made the mature choice to temper it with a much needed dose of grounding and common sense. You must be painfully honest with yourself in regard to your vision for a partnership, as to not mislead others who may not want or need such and arrangement. What you choose to commit to is totally yours, but it’s important for you to know the “raw material” you’re working with in your psyche.

When it’s all said and done, it’s up to you to create a situation which honors your need(s) for independence, intellectual stimulation, levity and personal growth. While simultaneously accepting love as a stimulus and support. Recognizing a good thing when you see it and creating room for your partnership to play an integral role on your quest to follow your personal legend.

References: Person-to-Person Astrology: Energy Factors in Love, Sex & Compatibility by Stephen Arroyo, Pluto: Volume II : The Soul’s Evolution Through Relationships by Jeffrey Wolf Green, Paulo Coelho’s “Talks With My Master” (1982-1990).

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